What workout plan is best for me?

Hi friend!!!

Happy Monday and beginning to a whole new week and end of February.. Isn’t it insane that we are already headed into the third month of the year? CRAY! I just finished my BBG 12 week workout plan and my #30daychallenge to close my rings and am so proud and pumped to keep going down this fitness journey. The end of this challenge also has me thinking about what workout plan I want to begin next\. I am working on my tri training, but strength training is also needed.

With this in mind, I wanted to focus today’s blog on talking about different gyms/workout options and about my experience with several different plans throughout the past years, as it is a common question I get when I am going to a new gym.

I most commonly get asked which gym/workout plan I think produces the best results. I would like to start by saying ALL gyms and plans WORK if YOU do! Plain and simple. If you are putting in the consistent work and are following a healthy meal plan, there is no reason why one workout plan won’t work for you vs the other. Remember, working out is truly a treat. Our bodies are strong and able enough to workout and we should be grateful for that, therefore make working out a FUN time in our days! Investing time in finding which plan makes you HAPPY and keeps your engaged is worth it!  

Here are my thoughts on different studios and workout plans which I hope will help you navigate the hundreds of classes going on right now.

  • F45  
    • Pros: It is mainly weight based. There are cardio days, but they are bodyweight and isometric type of workouts. You will get stronger and more fit by lifting. They give you workout towels and cool down towels after your workout. It is quick and only 45 minutes!
    • Cons: They only use bikes and rowers, no treadmills (for some, this is a pro). There is no cool down stretch. If you want to stay after and stretch on your own, you can but it isn’t something that is guided or done as part of the class.
    • Price: Unless there is a sale, they are the priciest gym that I have seen out there for $45 per week.
  • Orange Theory Fitness
    • Pros: You do a little bit of everything. It is a rotation of three main stations: treadmill, rower and weights. This gym helped my running pace get so much faster because of the different intervals from every class. These are pretty intense classes, so you really only need to go 4 times per week. The gym I went to had a great community, events outside of class and every 2 months there was a 90 minute class which was a nice challenge.
    • Cons: I am not a big fan of the rower; however, you will row every time. The weights are only dumbbells so you have to limit you workouts to those types of weights.
    • Price: Higher side – Typically $170/month + your initial heart rate monitor investment of $60.
  • Yoga
    • Pros: I have gone to several bikram yoga studios including Corepower and other local ones. Hot yoga is SO relaxing, challenging both to the body and mind and overall great for you. Even if you aren’t doing yoga as your primary workout, it is so helpful and needed for recovery. I hurt my ankle and went to yoga for a month and was a whole new human both inside and out because of it.
    • Cons: It is low intensity. The highest intensity class I have found was the sculpt class at Corepower which was intense, but it is yoga and lower intensity that your normal cardio class.
    • Price: Depends on the studio, but usually around $120 per month.
  • Pure Barre
    • Pros: Multiple repetitions and you get stronger with a lot of isometric work. Your booty is being worked out A LOT, so it helps in that area (which I need) for sure! You also work on your posture and breathing, which overall is great for you.
    • Cons: It is a slower paced workout. As you can tell by now, I am more of a high intensity workout person, so the classes that I took were too slow for my taste.
    • Price: $120-$140 + socks, but you can get those on your own.
  • Title Boxing
    • Pros: High intensity, dynamic moves that help release aggression and get your blood flowing. Depending on the gym, you can take classes that are more or less physical with the bags. Title isn’t just boxing. You can take boxing, kickboxing or MMA classes, all which are a mix of body weight, cardio and punching bags. Here, coaches make a big difference compared to other gyms I have attached because they are typically pushing you harder and are very encouraging which make me want to push my limits and get ouside my comfort zone. They’re even willing to take you aside and work with you on improving your technique.
    • Cons: Washing your equipment after class. I know this sounds lazy, but your hand wraps and gloves need to be washed and disinfected after class. It is just one more step that you need to take care of after class.
    • Price: Depends on the sales, but typically $70 per month + initial gloves and wraps which total can be ~$30, depending how fancy you want your gloves.
  • At-home – BBG, TIU, Beachbody (and others, but I have only tried these three)
    • Pros: You workout at your own time, at your own pace and they aren’t very long (typically). For the most part, not much equipment is needed and you can workout in the comfort of your living room not caring what you look like and nobody needs to know. It is very convenient, and there are online communities to keep you accountable. My favorite combo of these is either pure Beachbody, or BBG workouts following the TIU meal plan and recipes.
    • Cons: There are no in-person trainers to push you. If you are working out at home or following these self-guided programs, you need to motivate yourself, and/or be active on social media with these communities. If you have access to a gym and can do them there, sometimes that is better if you want to increase your weights and not spend on buying a heavier weight set.
    • Price: Depends on the plan. BBG now has the Sweat app that you can get for $20 per month, TIU also has their workout app, but not sure how much that is and it is offered in addition to SO many free resources online. Beachbody varies and I only did it back when the DVD’s existed so they vary. In addition to this, you may need a starter kit of weights and a few other things, but no more than $50.

A few ways to get started on finding what fits your schedule without spending a ton of money:

  • Classpass – they usually have a free month for new members
  • Groupon – a lot of gyms use it to give you a lower priced first month
  • Gym’s/programs actual site/app – Orange Theory only uses their one free class. Other gyms have even better sales through them, so try them directly. The at-home workouts also typically have a 1 week – 1 month free trial.

I am yet to try a cycling studio, pilates studio and Barry’s Bootcamp to review those. Have you tried them? What feedback do you have about these gyms and workout programs? What is your favorite?

Leave your comments below! 🙂

 

XO,

 

Gina

 

How to make chores easier

Hi, friend!

I wanted to share something that the husbie and I have been trying to get better at lately which is keeping our house clean on a more regular schedule, rather than spending our days off cleaning. It has literally been the topic of conversation more often than I would like to admit because #adultingsucks! How do people have time to have a full time job, have a side hustle, start a businesses, maintain social commitments, be healthy, make family time AND still scrub the shower and pair socks?! Like who are these super humans?! We are still trying to figure out how to make it all fit in 24 hours.. It’s hard. Our current biggest struggle is keeping the house clean without it absorbing an entire day! However, your physical environment is so important to your productivity and all facets in your life, so maintaining a clean organized home should be prioritized.

In our old home, we had a chore list that made our lives so much easier! Our house was smaller, but this list made our lives SO much manageable. We are bringing it back and are starting to see positive changes. We broke down our weekly chores by day to ensure that cleaning/keeping our home tidy doesn’t take longer than 30 minutes per day, unless it is a meal prep day. By doing small things every day, you free up your day off to do things that you actually enjoy, rather than spend hours cleaning/washing/doing all the things you need to do around the house. We don’t have a yard or weekly pet duties, but yard work and pet duties would also be listed here. You can see what a sample chart looks like in the file attached.

In addition to planning chores, we have started to organize our weeks by daily activities to maximize our time. For example, we will have two days per week set as our “working” days knowing that we will spend those working the entire afternoon. If it is not one of those days, we have the afternoon free to ourselves and either watch TV or do another hobby, meet up with friends, go to date night, etc.

By being more conscious with small daily tasks, it allows more overall flexibility and happiness in our lives. How do you stay on top of your home chores and tasks?

I hope this chart helped, and if you would like the excel format, I am more than happy to share with you, just leave a comment below 🙂

Weekly chore list

XO,

Gina

 

Carry-on Essentials

Hi friend!

On today’s blog post I wanted to share some of my favorite carry-ons when I travel because getting there is half the fun, right! I am not big on buying Wifi on the plane unless I have to, so I choose to plan ahead and prep some things in advance. I try to use my time on the plane to slow down and do some of my favorite things that I don’t always have time to do, so it adds more excitement, enjoyment and relaxation when traveling.

Here are a few things I take for entertainment:

  • Music – I download all my favorite songs on my phone so that I can listen to them.
  • Podcasts – I also download a couple podcasts so that I can listen to them while I am on the plane. I tend to pick longer ones, or ones that I have been wanting to go back to and take detailed notes on because there was so much great content.
  • Book or Audiobook – Depending what I am reading at the time, I will take my book with me.
  • Headphones – I like traveling with the big headphones like Beats in order to cancel out all the noise around me and just focus on what I am listening to.
  • Journal and pen – I like to take notes on my Podcasts, or just journal in general and take time to really check in with how I am feeling.
  • Coloring book and color pencils – I love to color and think it is so relaxing. I will color on the plane while listening to any of the above.
  • Plane pillow – We all need naps, so of course I pack this!

I also take a few things for personal hygiene because I have been stuck in unexpected travel conditions where I don’t have access to my bags, so I now pack an emergency hygiene kit in my carry-on of:

  • Toothbrush & toothpaste – After traveling for over 6 hours your mouth starts feeling a little weird, so take it with you! Of course check the travel regulations on the size that you can take as a carry-on.
  • Deodorant – A given!
  • Undies – If your flight is over 10 hours and you have access to airport lounges, you may want to freshen up!
  • Lotion – Both for your body and face. I really enjoy this  moisturizer. Your skin gets so dry, so make sure to take care of it.
  • Facial wipes – Another thing to ensure that your face is taken care of because being in planes for extended periods of time can be uncomfortable.
  • Lysol wipes – Just in case your seat tray is dirty or anything else is on your trip needs a little extra sanitation.

What are some things you take with you as carry-ons to help make your trip more fun and/or more comfortable?

XO,

Gina

 

Valentine’s Day Self-Love Challenge

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Today is the designated day to show love, but the reality is.. EVERY DAY is a great day to show love. Especially to yourself! I wanted to dedicate a post to self-care because the reality is that you cannot really love others, until you love yourself! ❤ Although today is Valentine’s Day, I challenge you to show YOURSELF some love today AND through the end of the month by completing at least 3 of the activities below! You have 2 weeks girl, you can do this! Post them on Instagram and tag me! I would love to see you take this challenge to take care of yourself!

  1. Workout! But don’t do a workout you half-like. Do something you LOVE! Dance, go for a long run, lift heavy weights, take a yoga class.. Heck! Try a new pole dancing class.. Get out there, and move your body doing something YOU LOVE!
  2. Wine and mask – Take some time aside in your day to drink some wine while your mask is on. Sheet masks are so easily available and affordable that this can be an easy one. If you rather drink sparkling water or kombucha in a wine glass, do that instead!
  3. Take a nap! Sleep is SO important to living your best life. Set some time aside on your day off to take a nap when you need it.. It’s life changing!
  4. Tell someone you love them. Yes, TELL, not text. Not just anyone.. Someone in your life that you haven’t told in a long time! Maybe it’s your brother, your aunt, your friend, your parents or even your significant other. Saying the words “I love you” are so powerful both for you and them.
  5. Journal – Take some time aside for journaling. How are you feeling? What are you grateful for? What things are making you happy right now? What are some goals you are crushing and want to recognize yourself for?
  6. Put on lipstick! Yaaaass girl! Lipstick is SO empowering. It gets so many of us out of our comfort zone but it is such a great way to make yourself stand out and show a little more boldness than your usual self. Wear it and rock it with confidence!
  7. Dress up! I don’t mean in your prom dress.. But take one night, or even day, to put a little more into your outfit for the day. Maybe wear wedges vs flats, wear a dress instead of pants, actually do your hair vs putting it up, or even just add some accessories to your outfit.
  8. Take a bath – set some time side for yourself and get in the bathtub. Get a bath bomb to make it a little more fun, or just hang out in the bath with a candle and chill.
  9. Get your nails did! Go to the nail shop to get a mani, pedi or if you prefer, paint your own nails and rock a fresh new color!
  10. Post a selfie! You are GORG! Show off that beauty and confidence with a selfie on social media. EXTRA CREDIT: Write one reason you love yourself in that post. It can be anything from having a healthy body, to having a great hair day. Show yourself some love publically.

I hope to see you tagging me in your posts and using the rest of February (including today) to love yourself!

XO,

Gina

 

How to start your runner journey

Hey, friend!

Are you just starting your fitness journey, or even maybe already on your journey, but want to get more into running? When I first started working out I was starting at ground 0. I began my journey in January 2013 when I wanted to get in shape for my wedding. I used to be very active in high school, but lost all the motivation to workout when I was in college due to such a busy schedule between school and work.

I started off with doing my workouts at the gym and would randomly find things to do. I realized though, that if I really wanted to lose some serious weight (that I needed to shred) I would have to increase my cardio intensity. My husband (fiance at the time) started to push me and we would run outdoors. He would run in front of me and encourage me to run but all I wanted to do was quit after 2 minutes of running. So, I decided that I would change what I was doing at the gym and work towards increasing my running endurance. I started by combining the exercises I was good at, to improve my running stamina.

For example, I would do 15 minutes on the elliptical first. The elliptical is a great starting place because you are working your legs, but you have assistance from your arms to not get tired as quickly. After the elliptical, I would go another 15 minutes on the bike. In this case, all of my strength was being channelled from my legs, but without the weight of standing up so it helped my legs get stronger. After this, I would go 10 minutes on the treadmill. I would start at a slow pace then slowly get to a jogging pace where I felt comfortable. I did this over and over at least 3 times per week. Eventually my leg strength and stamina was strong enough to change the rotations: 10 min elliptical, 10 min bike, 20 min run. Then after that felt comfortable, I dropped the bike and did 5 min elliptical and 30 minute run.

As I got more comfortable on the treadmill, I started setting small goals. I would jog for 3 minutes, then run for another 3, then go back to a slower pace to jog, then go back up, etc. This is what helped me also not feel overwhelmed with being on the treadmill so long and it started to feel like a game with myself. There is also an app which I know has helped many people get into running which is the couch to 5k app. After I started getting more comfortable with running and working out overall, my husband and I decided to start signing up for races which continued to reinforce and push my running skills. 5k’s are such a fun way to push yourself and have a final race goal in mind. Once you get more comfortable with your running skills, running outside to leave the monotony of the treadmill will for sure inspire you to push harder on your run and even want to be outside longer. 

Any way you do it, getting into running is life-changing! There really is such thing as a “runner’s high” where it is just you and the path in front of you, with your sick playlist and endorphins running through your body. I encourage you to get into it and push your mind and body to complete a 5k!

Currently, I am working on improving my speed. I am working on small sprint intervals, as well as adding in some hills so I can work against the incline and help my speed.

What tactics have you used to either get into running, or improve your speed? I would love to learn more about your running journey!

 

XO,

Gina

 

The Art of Patience

“Patience is a virtue” .. the phrase I tell myself several times a day. I am a very high energy person, and somewhat a perfectionist, which causes me to sometimes be controlling over things or get anxiety because things in my life aren’t done quickly. It also causes HUGE DOUBTS! I think, “If I am not getting the outcome that I want, when I want it, then I must be doing something wrong.”… WRONG THOUGHTS! Let’s talk more about the balance between impatience and patience.

Why it’s great to be impatient

To get -ISH DONE! It’s proven that people with a sense of urgency will get more things done, be more effective and always be thinking of ways to do things more efficiently to get even MORE done. It also allows you to be more successful in life because you are looking for results quicker, so you are trying everything in your power to achievement, quicker.  Ed Mylett talks about time management and impatience in his Podcast episode “The Secret on How I get 21 days a week”.

Why you still need to learn patience

There is a learning theory by Ken Blanchard called “Situational Leadership Model”. This model teaches that there are 4 development levels that every person goes through when learning something new. Level 1 is someone with high commitment and low competence. Meaning, when you are really excited (highly committed) to take on a new task, hobby or skill but you don’t know how to do it because you have never done it before (low competence). Level 2 is when this really excited person realizes that the task is a lot harder than they thought, so their commitment level (motivation/confidence) on this task goes WAY down and decide they want to quit. They still don’t know how to do the task (low competence) and are deflated. THIS is the phase where my impatience starts to kick in. THIS is the time when I start telling myself that I am doing something wrong, that I suck, that I want to quit because this new thing is so hard. BUT I forget that I haven’t allowed myself to get to the final development level. It is key to remember that with every new thing, there will be a dip in your confidence and competence, it is NORMAL. So, if you push through and really try to master the skill, you will end up at development level 3. This is when you finally CAN do the task, but you are lacking the commitment. Maybe you can finally swim laps in a pool, but you need that extra reassurance and confident booster from others to tell you that you are doing a great job so you have the confidence to continue to work on perfecting your technique. FINALLY, after much practice and hard-earned work, you get to level 4. You become the pro that you thought you were supposed to be so long ago when you were pushing yourself so hard and doubting yourself. You can actually do the task alone, and are confident in it.. You are a BADA$$!

The amount of patience needed to get to the final mastery level is so high that most of us aren’t willing to wait that long, so we give up on ourselves or become anxious instead of continuing to work at what we want. Gary Vee is the #1 preacher about how patience is key to the success of anything that you do and he is SO right. Why? Because you have a whole learning cycle to go through EVERY TIME you try a new task, goal or hobby. Don’t get me wrong, I am NOT saying to procrastinate because things take time. I am saying that you should put in the work over a period of time, but also know that the results will take consistent, conscious action towards your goal and with time, and lots of patience, you will achieve your desired outcome.

And the most important reason to be patient, is because you love yourself. As the bible reads in 1 Corinthians 13:4 “Love is patient. Love is kind..” Regardless of your faith, the definition of love includes patience. Primarily in this case, love for YOURSELF should be a priority. Giving yourself grace for going through the steps and going through the process of becoming a better version of yourself requires love and patience… so do yourself a favor and CHILL on the crazy deadlines that you put on yourself! 

Hard work + consistency + self-love + patience = formula for success

 

XO,

 

Gina

 

Favorite Podcasts

Hey, friend!

As you’ve been able to tell by now (or so I hope) I LOVE to be productive and learn as much as I can to get ahead in life. I try to maximize every minute in my day by waking up early, completing my miracle morning routine, read different articles throughout the day and attend seminars whenever possible. However, the most effective and efficient way I learn is listening to Podcasts and Audiobooks. You can find a podcast about virtually ANYTHING. They are an amazing resource to keep you engaged on a topic that you want to learn more about. I have listened to podcasts regarding: murder mysteries, being a better triathlete, self help, growing my business, marriage.. Etc! By listening to at least one episode per day during my workout or my commute, I learn something new and it inspires me to continue to work hard every day.

I wanted to share some of my current favorite podcasts with you so that you can hopefully find one that really speaks to you and where you are in your life right now. My top favorites usually change every couple of months, just depending on what I am going through and need to hear. Here are my current favorites!

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  • Rise Podcast by Rachel Hollis: Her podcast talks about a variety of things from being a business owner, to being a woman and overall becoming the best version of yourself. Her podcasts have taught me more about productivity, chasing my passions and it is a great way to get FREE content from her live events which are pure FIRE!

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  • Rise Together Podcast by Rachel and Dave Hollis: I am married, so naturally this podcast speaks to me. Rachel and Dave go into some pretty serious #realtalk situations that you encounter as a couple! They also bring on guests to specifically talk about marriage and how to build a better partnership, better communication skills, etc.

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  • The MFCEO Project by Andy Frisella: He is your daily dose of tough love with a whole lot of F* bombs! If you are not comfortable with cussing, this isn’t for you. However, if you can tolerate it, Andy is so real in breaking down concepts and tactical advice to become the best version of “your OWN life’s CEO” (as he says) and nixing your excuses.

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  • EpowerHER Podcast by Kacia Fitzgerald: She is new in the space, but killing it! This podcast is for all women looking to live a better life and she and her guests provide you with the tools to take home and implement. Kacia’s energy is contagious through the mic and it will for sure get you going for the day!

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  • Super Soul Conversations by Oprah: Obviously the queen of interviewing had to be on my list! She has 2-3 podcasts, but I have only had a chance to listen to this one. These interviews are about working from the inside out – how do you learn more about yourself and your inner soul desires to bring deeper meaning to your life, in your own unique way. She has some high profile interviews of course, so it is great to hear from these very successful people and their lives and struggles.

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  • The Ed Mylett Show: Truth bombs after truth bombs! Ed is all about sharing tips and interviews that will take your life to the next level. He is a successful investor and businessman himself, and he shares how to implement his habits and skills in very tangible ways.

I hope some of my current podcast faves speak to you and you check some of them out!! What are some of your favorites? Why do you like them? I would love to hear more from you in the comments below!

XO,

Gina

 

Getting the perfect gift for your partner

Can you believe January is almost over?! February is around the corner and most people are starting to think about Valentine’s Day and what to get their significant others. Personally, my husband and I aren’t huge on this holiday, but we incorporate a little extra special-ness into our date for that week. We are both thoughtful in the way that we prepare our “gifts” for each other. We try to center them around our Love Languages. If you haven’t read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman with your partner yet, I strongly suggest you do. If you don’t have the chance to read the book, I suggest you (and your partner) at least take the online assessment to learn more about yourselves.

After my husband and I learned more about each other’s love language, we were able to more effectively give gifts to each other that made sense and made the other TRULY feel loved. For example, my top two love languages are gifts and acts of service. This means that my husband shows me he loves me by helping around the house, putting gas in my car, buying me a little something that reminded him of me that day, getting me a nice gift, etc. He, on the other hand, loves words of affirmation and quality time. That means I try to reinforce my love for him through compliments, cute texts, ensuring we watch movies together, have dinner together every day, etc. Although the things I listed for him are things I also really enjoy, the other two will make me exponentially happier and feel more loved. When we realized we were completely different, it was like a light bulb came on and we communicated and showed each other love so much more effectively.

All of this said, as you think about some gifts for either Valentine’s Day or an anniversary, consider flexing your love language to fit your partner’s. Here are some gift ideas based on love language:

Gifts:

  • What has your partner been wanting for a while? Can you get it for them? Surprise them with a gift from their wishlist on Amazon.
  • Don’t have a big budget? Make something! The beauty of gifts is that the person wants something to show that you put effort and were thinking about them. There are some great ideas to make candles, a nice dinner with a lit candle(s), or even a picture frame with a collage.
  • A couple ideas for your man:
    • A new watch – There are so many different styles and price points now that are from very affordable to very pricey. Choose what fits you!
    • Nice shaving gear – Does your man like to take care of his beard? What about a nice shaving kit?
    • New shoes – Whether your man likes athletic shoes or boots, a new pair of shoes are nice. Socks are so in right now – so add those in too!
    • A gift card to his favorite place, or even a place you can share the time together – What if you give him a gift card to a massage you can go to together?
    • DIY – personalized calendars and photo albums are always a hit! Shutterfly already has their Valentine’s Day sale going and you can get a quality way to remember all the amazing times you’ve had.
  • No matter what gift you give, make sure to include a thoughtful note. The gift of time to put together  a nice letter is priceless.

Words of Affirmation:

  • Write a really nice card and ensure that you are affirming their qualities specifically. Instead of blanket statements like “I really appreciate you” say “I really appreciate that you help me fold laundry because I feel like we are part of a team and you love me.” Get really specific with WHY you love your partner.
  • Get creative and make a personalized gift for them that has reaffirming phrases such as “#1 dad”, “you are the best husband ever”, etc. You can even DIY this and make a jar of compliments. He can get one paper per day and get a new compliment on how amazing he is.
  • Make the days leading up to the big day a little more exciting! Send him daily texts and tell him why you love him. Writing a quick note and sneaking it into his work bag would also be a great idea to give an element of surprise 😉

Acts of Service:

  • What task does your partner NOT enjoy that you can do for them for one day? Take time to complete that task for them. Take it a step further and make a task jar – put little papers with different tasks they complete and they can “redeem” your help with them in the coming weeks.
  • Help your partner get ready for your date and iron their shirt. Maybe you are going out and their car is a mess. Clean out the car and take it for a car wash.
  • If you are going to dinner, offer to take care of making the reservation. With busy schedules, that can become a task in and of itself.

Quality Time:

  • Give your partner your undivided attention. If anything else, make sure that when you are with them on a date, or even just having dinner together, they know you are listening and actively engaging in conversation together. Yes, that means leaving your phone away from sight! If you have kids, get a sitter so you can give each other your full attention.
  • Plan a getaway or special night where you two will have fun. Here are some ideas:
    • Massage date – get a massage and enjoy a glass of wine after
    • Walk along the beach and have a picnic – collect seashells along the way!
    • Hike together – Enjoy a nice conversation at the top of the mountain
    • Mini staycation for the weekend and unplug to enjoy each other
    • Wine night and board games. You can even play cards and bet on each other.
    • Surprise them and decorate your room or living room with lights, balloons and rose petals to give your home more ambiance
  • If you aren’t very creative, buy a date night idea jar and pick out of the jar every time. This will allow you to keep allowing quality time moments to happen.

Physical Touch:

  • Make sure that you are constantly touching your partner…. That may come off awkward in public, hu?! LOL JK but seriously.. Touch your partner when you are around them – it can be a gentle hug, hand on their leg, playing with hair, back rub, hold hands more often etc. Physically staying connected is very important to these people.
  • Spice up your life! Get a new piece of lingerie to make your physical time together a little more exciting.

What is yours and your partner’s love language? How are you going to cater to it on your next special day together?

 

XO,

Gina

 

“I am” .. awesome!

Have you ever found yourself in the middle of the situation and feeling that you are just “too” __ (insert your word) for that situation? I constantly do. In talking to other friends, it seems like we all go through this negative self talk that we are too much or too little of something for the opportunity that life gives us. I will explain more in the following examples:

Over the past 6 years I have battled different thoughts in my mind about how I am “too young” to be doing something. I was too young to be a manager and handle large responsibilities in my career, or advising others that were older than me, or talking in front of others that were several years my senior. All of these things that I associated with responsibilities or actions that were people “at least 30 years old”. But what is the reality? The truth is that I got these opportunities and chances that made me incredibly UNCOMFORTABLE to grow. And as much as I didn’t want to accept it – these opportunities weren’t just randomly given or presented, they were earned because someone saw something in me – the real me, not the one I was thinking I was supposed to be – that forced me to stand up to the plate and to the new responsibilities.  So no, I am/was not too young, I AM a hard worker that is at the right place in her life for that new challenge.

Thinking way back -this also happened to me back in high school. I was the girl who was “cool” – I was on the dance team, cheer, but also almost a straight A student, taking AP classes and getting into UC Berkeley. In high school terms – I had to be ditzy to be a cheerleader and super quiet to be a smart girl. I was definitely “too outgoing” to be smart and “too much of a bookworm” to be a cheerleader/dancer. Writing it on paper is almost comical, but it’s so true. I didn’t know how I should have been to appear to be the right person, but the truth was that I was, and AM, a unique blend of both. However, being worried about being “too” much of one stereotype rather than the other caused some real mix of emotions for me. Not until I realized that I was supposed to be me – a silly, outgoing, nerdy, studious girl – was I able to realize that I AM who I am and that is exactly why I am unique.

And of course – the famous – I am “too flabby” to wear that cute dress and cute bikini. Because – body shaming is a real thing, right? It still continues to be an issue for me. One that I am working on actively. But the reality is, I work my hard on my body but I also like to have fun with it. I love to have a couple drinks, dance, complete several races per year, eat healthy but some pizza and chips are also in the mix.. So yea, I do have some flab. But I also enjoy every moment with it so I am not “too flabby” for that outfit, I AM a strong woman who enjoys balance in her life and that is reflected in my cute dress.

My point is.. SO MANY TIMES we end up telling ourselves, or at least I do, that I am just “too” something that I cannot enjoy the moment that I am living because I get so caught up on how I should be showing up in a certain situation, rather than just BEING. You just ARE who you are because you are supposed to be a unique human. You are supposed to experience hard things that make you uncomfortable to shape you. You aren’t “too” anything for a situation. You are a badass that can take on a challenge and are ready for it. It was meant for you. Instead of thinking about how you are “too” something for a situton, what if you change your mindset and say “I am”. “I am at the right point in my life for this challenge’, “I am a fun smart girl”, “I am grateful for the experiences I get to have in my body so I should show it off in a way that makes me happy”. These thoughts of being “too” will continue, but it is my (and your) job to change my mindset to appreciate what “I am”. And for sure.. “I am awesome”!

 XO,

Gina